abortion letter from baby to mommy

All the what-ifs led me to deciding that the best decision for me would be to terminate. I just keep crying. When you make this list of pros and cons, I think it will help you understand the reality. He ignores me when Im upset and just goes to bed with that knowledge. All the best. After I check in, I have to take another urine test. I sit there like that until I hear the front door open and your dad walks in. Maybe they never will. I know thats the right decision but I cant stop crying or thinking about baby . Abandonment threatI couldnt believe it. Only a few days have gone by since I was conceived and I am now growing in your tummy. I got an abortion 6 days ago. It's me. I was six weeks pregnant . Please look into and join the face book group I Regret My Abortion there is a logo of a rainbow. In a letter shared in advance with the Guardian and sent on . She tells me, You dont have to do this. Stay strong and stay encouraged. There might be days when I'm a bit naughty I open it and see two pictures of you. I know what I will do and why I feel it is the best choice I can make, but I will never forget this little tiny creature that has visited me and wanted so much to be my family, as I so wanted to be hers/his. At first, he was kind of a jerk, but eventually conceded to drive two hours back to San Francisco even though I had just sent him away that morning. God has a way of pulling us out of any situation and will guide us and provide strength. The abortion will be via the pill (which I think is an awfully ironic name for it). You can also sign up as Sugar . Hi there reading this story made me cry so bad I pray God gives me another chance and send him back to me one day. I hope my 2nd child knows I love him or her. I found out I was pregnant October 1st. I was overjoyed but crushed the next day after he told me we werent ready and that I should get rid of it. Because I wanted abortion, I took my first baby's life. I dont have a strong conviction I can do this. I just wanted to say thank-you for sharing your story. Am I selfish for bringing our baby into this world? Children cannot eat love and so please think about your financial situation. I just wanted to say thank you for writing this. My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 years, we have a 9 year old & make about $80K (maybe more) combined income but yet Im contemplating abortion. Im 29 and each partner Ive been with had children outside of me after we ended our relationship. One day you will be an amazing mum, dont doubt that! He doesnt mean too, hes just a consummate bachelor annnnddddd.damn it. Ive always wanted to be a mom, and already, I feel like I know you and yet I cant have you.. And because I am one, I made the right decision. I felt like death every day sometimes unable to stay out longer than 2 hours outside. He wants me to get an abortion, but I just dont think I can do it. I wish you and your baby love and healthy lives your braver than I was I envy that, I had an abortion in April. Its been 3 months since my abortion. Constant regret and pain . And I havent heard from him since. I just knew it was my girl I prayed for. Its been 44 years since my abortion and I think of her every day. I wanted to be your special child. As opposed to most elective . I knew that if I went in for an ultrasound and saw features on that monitor.. there was no way I could go through with it. We have been having the same unprotected sex as we were while still together. Its been 7 years since my abortion, and I miss her. I can identify , however the thought of another pregnancy scared me.. so I never wanted another child.. after this..This was 28 years later, I am in the same boat currently. locating a private donor and/ or coparent online Hi Mikal, I understand how torn you feel. After a further 2 weeks things started to settle down. We were told if we wanted children we would have to make a concerned effort. I feel my baby moving around and he doesnt understand what Im going through. Thank you for this. We cant afford this baby. I cant imagine what I would have done if I wasnt able to have an abortion. I love him so much it hurts I cant imagine my life without him, he filled a hole I didnt know I had. I move into the mini-counseling session with your dad, and we are firm on our decision. I n 1967, when Governor Ronald Reagan made California the third state in the union to liberalize its abortion laws, his hesitancy about doing so was clear from the start . I was rattled with anxiety and guilt and overwhelmed. I want to be able to call you "Mom," and hear you say I'm yours. I told my cousin and she said that his name sounded familiar and asked around. "Everything about a later termination is already so incredibly difficult even just picking up the phone to make the appointment. How do you know? I pull out the test and show him the two pink lines. When God made me, He gave me a soul I knew in my heart that I didnt want to let it go. ? He said he would be there no matter what, but I still didnt want to force a family on him if thats not what he wanted. Thankyou all for sharing your stories + most of all the letter to the little light. Id like to represent other womans stories not only my own, does anyone have any advice or an opinion on the matter? You were my everything. Our family was complete. I know my baby deserves a life I couldnt of given her now or at that time and I know one day she will come back to me, I get excited when i think about meeting her finally one day when we are both ready, I wish I had support here so I could cry to someone who gets it, Im 23 and I had my abortion at 5 weeks and three days in April. Ive often wished we met sooner so we could of had a child together. I feel for you and very sorry for your loss. That exact day I started bleeding I went to the ER and they said I might miscarry again I told him and he is convinced I am going to lose the baby. Then I went into early menopause at 34 and never had kids. No baby should be murdered by its mother. Im 9 weeks pregnant. Im ready,but am I really ready? Ruffalo opened up about his own mother's experience with having an abortion . Just not now. Exactly a month later I find out Im pregnant again. to NOT have to make this decision. I would give anything to have my baby back. And Im scared because Ive read what an abortion can do or affect my fertility. So heartbroken. A week before the abortion he changed his mind and got attached to the baby. , I think to myself. "Please pray for this woman to continue to stand firm in her choice to give life to her unborn baby," the pro-life organization wrote. Immediately after I felt relief that I was not constantly nauseous and I could eat again. He keeps trying to make me have the child and give my child full custody and I feel like he wants to rob me because I cant afford to have a child of my own. The doctor walks in and is quite pregnant. I found out I was pregnant today and through the tears, I scheduled the appointment. January 22, 2021 - The anniversary of Roe v Wade - 48 years of legal abortion in all fifty states. I know my mum will be so happy and that breaks my heart because I have to see the joy I could have given and shared with my mum but being shared with my sister and it hurts so much. I wasnt going to tell him until I was so far along I could not abort but that sounds crazy. My boyfriend and I decided it was best to have a surgical abortion( I personally recommend this over the pill as I did not want to experience actually passing the baby, bleeding and cramping for weeks possibly!) Be strong for me hold on to me She is 23, theyve been together 6 months and shes not ready for such a huge commitment. My husband is dead set against it and Im not sure what to do. Ive always had irregular periods and issues. We started trying, but didnt expect it to come so soon. God will see you through. Published by Family Friend Poems November 2008 with permission of the author. Diary of an Unborn Child is the title of an anonymously-written anti-abortion article which was first read on the floor of the New York Senate in 1970. I aborted even though my heart ached and I loved it every day. Your dad is an alcoholic. Hi Melanie, just dont do it! I had an abortion at 5 weeks 6 days, pill as well. I want to start by saying that I am skeptical that it is a sincere post. I thought about how I had just lost my job, just went back to school, was still struggling with grief from a lost loved one and trying to take care of my mom while still trying to learn how to take care of myself. I saw a tarot reader 2 years ago and they brought him up and told me he forgave me and understood but I will never forgive myself. Im 9 weeks, and he pretends like it does not exist. And an angel to look after you, too. I dont know what to do, I know exactly how you feel . Abortions do not occur in this time period, so the phrase is contradictory. I like the word dad because Father is in Heaven. Seven months latter she wrote this letter to a priest. Just like you, I too was in university. My daughter was only 800g when she was born, stayed in NICU for 3 month. a desire to meet its mother; Reactions to this song have been divided. Praying for all of you and I know now every situation is so different. Thank you for this I hope one day Ill find a way to be okay, I really feel stupid and sad Im pregnant and everyone doesnt support my relation ship.i now want to abort and sadly get over my man. I didnt want to do this. When I found out I was pregnant, was overcome with fear. "But I could hear her cry. Im a working fulltime mom Ive always been morally against abortions Ive always advocated against them and here I am having to contemplate one. It is a very hard decision to make thinking about having our fist baby but I have no choice. Good luck with that husband. I cry at every baby shower/kids birthday party I go to, in secret of course. And understand that by forcing your boyfriend to do something he isnt ready for you may ruin your relationship with him. Hi guys im 24 yrs old. My apt is tomo And I dont want to go. Don't Forget That I Was Here By Me too A M, August the 30th. Maybe you feel as if your world has been turned upside-down. The heavy burden and guilt that I felt each day makes me question myself why I did came to that point, if I was careful enough to not make mistake. I am totally against abortion. The dad had permit and he wanted to have the baby And he even offer to get merried because I also was afraid of telling my family and I said no with in 3 or 4 days after founding out I abort our baby . I know it not quite the same but its just how I feel. I was heavily against murder but I know its for the best. Starving, I told him. If your willing to share that is. I was clearly going to get my period. It has only been two years. I want you to know, I understand. I felt you crying when you went to the doctor. Not how I thought I would live my life. It took me months to get back to normal, probably because of the hormones, and I got severely depressed and anxious. I was so excited when I found out because I didnt even know if could have kids. I was 5 weeks. I had abortion almost 4 years ago and it still affects me greatly. Im working on it though. Its a hard decision, Hi there Im in the same situation, dont know what to do Im so sick ? People will yawn when they are bored of you. Then after that we took a break and he broke up with me on the day I got abortion and said that hes moved to a different state and didnt think he wanted to come back home. I'll make you breakfast on Mother's Day I couldnt relate more to this paragraph you wrote: Im sending love your way, dear one. I failed my baby boy and Im still trying to figure out how to be at peace with myself and sometimes Im so scared I never will be. Your story sounds exactly like my own. He walks into the front room while I am mid-stand, so thats how I greet him. This poem represents the voice of an unborn child pleading for its life. the world makes us feel weak. It resonates and although Im still very sad, makes me feel more peaceful. I looked at them and I couldnt believe that that potential was now inside me. Im 33. The place we live doesnt have space for a baby and we are only just building our savings. God bless . To be honest, the abortion probably saved my life. I'm just a tiny someone, I never knew if I wanted kids or not or if Id make a good mother. Gabrielle Kruger Im struggling with this decision. My wife had an abortion almost 20 years ago and has regretted every day since. Its been really hard. But tbh, by that point in our unhealthy relationship I had enough resentments of my own towards him to really care much. Im struggling with this right now. But I do not regret it. Little Thing, I want you to be happy. I told my husband minutes before we left to go camping. If anyone has any advice, please send it my way. We just dont know what we actually want, since we decided to not have children. You deserve the acceptance and tolerance of a choice that is yours and yours only. **** Truth is ive been crying my eyes out i am on birth control always on time with my pills. I just found out I am pregnant at 42. Sending love to all of you going through this situation . I tell him I dont want an abortion, but nothing about this makes sense. Remorse Is Forever By And way farther along than I thought. 13 years later I still cry for my baby. March 8, 2014 at 4:36 pm. But I'll also give you plenty of hugs and kisses i know its just rational thinking, but it still hurts a lot. Sending love your way. I had one almost six years ago and I still cry about it. Im maybe 3-5 weeks pregnant but already feel attached. I just went through having to make a decision as well. The one person I need in my corner is not the there and I dont know if I can do this all over again at my age. So thank you, next week Im going for it, as difficult as it is, as much as I want this child and already love him/her I have to be realistic and also ask, what kind of life would I be offering this child. The connection is like no other. Thank you for writing this. My heart is so crushed. I hate that Im stuck with making this decision. I feel manipulated and trapped. Sometimes I still feel her, I pray that shes come back. After decades of keeping her . I feel for you. All my life my dream was to have kids. I know this choice that I am making will be the hardest but I know in the long run, I will be saving my child from being born into a dysfunction environment I at least owe my child that. A Letter to the Girl Who's Considering an Abortion March 25, 2021 by Lindsay Smith Hi Sweet Girl, I don't need to know your name or look into your eyes, and I don't need to have been where you find yourself tonight to know that you're terrified and in pain. It breaks my heart everyday because I didnt really want to get rid of my baby I loved her ( felt she was a girl ), had a name picked out, went to multiple scans ( still got pictures ) .Today is a year since my surgery and I grieve her everyday I regret it . Im so fearful I dont know what to do. My Unborn Love By We are both unhappy . My boyfriend and I are not financially stable to raise a child right now. I just wanted to let you know that the decision I made was very painful and still hurts at times but that it does get easier especially if you know you made it for the right reasons. I wanted an abortion but my boyfriend wanted us to keep the baby. I was accepted into the Montessori teacher training program two days prior. This was with the same toxic individual that I got pregnant the first time with . 5 years after that we accidentally get pregnant and have a beautiful baby girl but even after having her I still retreat my choice and he still blaming me as he should I guess but we live a very sad life am trying to have another baby but he is not making as much trying as I do because he say am with you only for my daughter and am living for her to but she always ask for a sister or brother I dont know what to do .so much happened in our life that I think wouldnt be happening if I just have my baby and get married with him . I have been battling with the decision for some time now, had an appointment yesterday and didnt go because the voices of those who tell me I need to have the courage to keep the baby keep ringing in my head and those that guilt trip me on the decision of abortion and how wrong it is. My husband does not want another child. The copyright of all poems on this website belong to the individual authors. A letter from baby to mom right before abortion Hi mom, how are you? Its nice to see other ladies have the same emotions and I know when the time is right my baby girl will come back to me (: This might be a bit forward and seem strange of me but I have been through this twice before so if you would like someone to talk to or any support you are welcome to contact me anytime x. I just had mine this afternoon. By Ronald Doe. God bless you and your family. My heart would of gotten excited despite starting all over again. Well, I made it out alive. But I begged her not to go, I pleaded at times crying on the phone. I support her no matter what her decision is but ultimately I feel like she is too young to make the rest of her life set and stone. When he parks in front of my school, in front of parents carrying in their babies and small children, I call Planned Parenthood and schedule an abortion for ten days from now. It's just cruel." To explain the center's work, Pinson told a story about a girl who showed up with her mom on the morning the Heartbeat Act took effect, asking for an abortion. He is the reason why I feel so motivated now, and although its not easy I wouldnt trade him for anything in the world. Im only 21 and Im not financially free. I have seen God cry when rocking little babies in His big loving arms. Hes basically ignoring me emotionally but talking to me civil. Unborn Child's letter to Mom !!! 4. I cried so bad in the clinic and during the procedure that I still have nightmares and flashbacks often. But I dont regret it either. But in reality I know who the dad was because of what had happened on the night we spent together but it did not help my decision as I felt so ashamed. Then I found out I was pregnant! Sometimes four days late, sometimes ten days you get the idea. Not as alone because feeling my baby every night move around gives me hope. I go to sleep the same way I have every night since I found out about you: heartbroken and tearful. The month before was the most emotionally and physically exhausting of my life. You can always come back. I tell her, I cant. Im honest enough with myself to know that if I leave, I will never will come back. I promise that the next time I see that little blue plus, the next time you are in the same reality as me, I will be ready for you. I hoped the pain and loss in my gut would fade away over time but it hasnt. I was literally in the same situation as you! I am in the middle of mine as I type this. Your dad offers to drive me, but I want to listen to music on my headphones. Xx. Helton-Haynes, a nurse by training, said in a phone interview the 2019 law was intended to protect both the mother and the baby. I just wish I presented her with an easy choice. Letter from a Woman Who Had an Abortion. I dont know if hes being dramatic or not but he thinks we will lose our home because we are barely making ends meet with one in daycare. I'll be able to hear the sound of your voice. I feel so empty and outright irresponsible. (Sense my sarcasm, little one.) Ebony Angel B. I am sad because I already have a connection with the child in my belly and I cry everyday thinking about the fact that I wont be able to hold him or her or see their face. Hi Sarah, Ive just had a baby (two weeks ago) at 40, I do feel age is but a number. I have an appointment at planned Parenthood in 6 days and a doctors appointment tomorrow. The pain in my gut has not gone away. I havent seen her since after I delivered her, I immediately went whom and my sister arranged everything after she found out what happened , because I needed help so I called her.. There are so many things I am looking forward to, and I can't wait to be held in your arms and taught by the very best mama I can think of! Maybe you're frightened. A mother is a protector but I couldnt, I killed my unborn. I cried every day leading up to me making a decision, and I set the appointment for the very next day after I decided so that I would not have much time to change my mind. Cry Of An Unborn Child by Gabrielle Kruger - Family Friend Poems. On the day of the appointment I cried so much I couldnt get myself to do it and as time went on I decided to keep him. He puts his hand on my thigh and asks, What do you want to do? I ask him, What do you want to do? He replies, I want to do whatever you decide. In my mind, Ive raised a child on my own, and even with all the struggles, raising her has been the most rewarding experience ever. Then I panicked more I hadnt even thought about how I had a choice to make, and how this didnt only involve me, it involved your dad, too. Did you end up keeping your baby ? If you do it, please remember you are not alone and it does get better And remember (if you believe) God will forgive you. Rapid thoughts flooded my brain. we are just buying a house and i know money isnt good right now, but i cant help but hate his kids now bc i had to give up mine. Sending love xx. I think Ill visit an abortion clinic to avail of a medical abortion service because its difficult for me to survive if I have a child. I too feel like I will regret it if I do this, You definitely should keep it! I didnt want to be, but I had a hard time standing up to him and saying no for myself. Today its been 1 year since the surgery. Whenever you talk about her baby, use the pronouns "he" or "she.". We don't need to live in a big fancy house, Im grateful I was in a position to have options and make a choice as a woman. Every day I feel like a monster. I had a late term surgical abortion, against my will. The 20-week ban adds another hurdle. I have images that its the same as trying to kill one of my current children. I dont want to regret terminating my baby but what if I get into a situation where I cant get out of? I know I made the right decision, but seeing him with his kids now breaks my heart bc he didnt want the one with me right now. It also makes me proud to know that I was conceived out of love. I told my baby it may have to be just me and him. Help us continue to provide this imperative service. My boyfriend told me to abort mine and I dumped him and made that decision on my own. Im balling my eyes out googling help topics because I miss her so much. I didnt go through with the abortion, I couldnt once seeing my baby but ever since deciding to keep my baby Im still. I know the abortion has made me realise how much of an amazing mum I am going to be but I am also so desperate to be a mummy and the loss in my gut cant be put into words. I feel alone, abandoned & ashamed that I have to make this decision. We were in this sad nightmare together, weren't we? I told myself there was no way i could be pregnant. Now I m just waiting for my appointment but I feel so shit , down and gonna cry all the time. This is me right now,I dont know what to do its so hard. I would never say that Im over it and my biggest regret is not being careful enough to avoid getting pregnant in the first place. A judge can excuse you from this requirement. Im doing my final major project in my fashion degree and want my final collection to be inspired by my experience. I really commend you Shawn. All I wanted to do was feel your skin and smell you. I was 5 weeks when I decided to let my baby go, I miss her everyday . no one is on my side. All of this is to saymom, you have a child, it's me. Im almost 6 weeks pregnant and although I want this baby, my husband does not. I feel that it was indeed the best decision for me but Im so emotionally torn that i feel horrible for doing it i was also about 5 weeks . My boyfriend has two children ages 18 and 13. I go into a patient room for questions and Im told your dad can join me later for the mini-counseling session. Always imagine what he or she will look like. I need to get a surgical abortion on Monday and he cant even decide if he wants to come and support me. I would do things so differently. I hear you and Im there for you. I had an abortion past the point of having the pill so had to have the surgery, It was the most painful time of my life physically and emotionally and I never expected it would continue to haunt me. Up to this moment Im still thinking of her, asking God and her for forgiveness. Mamma you knew when I was placed in your womb. Your baby. I really didn't want to die. Jessa Duggar Seewald, best known for her role on the TLC reality show "19 Kids and Counting," recently shared in a YouTube video that she miscarried what would have been her fifth child. Love to each of you xxxxxxxxx. My sister just found out she is pregnant and I congratulated her on the phone. Then told me I was over reacting for waking up in the middle of the night over and over crying. I dont know where to go or what to research for. Thats the last burrito hell ever order without any major care in the world. I got married in December, I just found out that I am pregnant last week, Im running my masters degree and my husband isnt financially stable, feeling really sad and confused about what to do next. I am turning 23 in two days, on July 24th funny enough. The clinic I went to was great! I had to. Whitney. And while sometimes they are not always as sensitive to the subject as Id like (not on purpose) it feels so relieving to tell someone. Im giving up the pregnancy to focus on my toddler & also to avoid a life of suffering for the new baby You know in your heart what the right decision is. I ask for the pill and she hands me it along with a cup of water. I look for my child for twenty years but I was never able to get pregnant again . Yet, I have an appointment with my Dr on Monday. I immediately was overcome with fear! I hope I only delayed meeting my next little one instead of completely losing out on one unique beautiful baby, Thank you for sharing. I wish this was easier. I wish I had made the even more difficult decision and been able to hold him and tell him how much I love him. Your dad offers to drive me, but I want to listen to music on my headphones. I recently found out I was pregnant after having a late period. I am going through the same exact thing you are. Listen to her fears and help her conquer them one by one. But its up to you. In 1971 a Catholic woman who wrote this letter had an abortion in New York. You don't know me yet, I'm only a few weeks old. I stood up, pants around my ankles, and lost my footing, grasping onto the shelf that held toilet paper and Febreze. What if I still had no money, no stable place to live? However I was so sick I could barely make it to class and I was on the verge of going to the hospital for dehydration. Its something I think about every day. I have been looking for support from this side. It is a deep sorrow. I am so sorry you had to go through this. nothing was ever the same between us. My name is also Ashley and im also at the 10 year mark. I might have forgotten what I learned and failed my license exam in the future since Id have to take a leave. Thanks again for this though, I wish you the best and its great to know I am not alone. I loved this poem so much, it made me cry. Have you done it? We use protection and still Ive ended up pregnant once more. I was extremely saddened by the Feb. 18 Buffalo News article concerning the 36 actresses who intended to spend hours reading from "The Handmaid's Tale" to benefit . Much love:). I had not long been in a new job that I had wanted and worked hard for. Family assumes that I just dont want to have them, when in reality, now, is that no one will have one with me. This is your decision and you must do what feels right for you. Love you lots!!! Im 21, and I was 7 weeks pregnant last week but decided to terminate, after much deliberation. My parents would have had to raise the child on the other side of the country and I knew I wouldnt have been able to bear being away from it. I pulled up my pants, didnt flush, and walked back into the classroom where twelve toddlers slept. I instantly regretted it I changed my mind the day of my surgery but the nurse said I may have a miscarriage because I took the pill the day before . I take his hand in mine and say, Everything thats happened the past few weeks doesnt matter anymore. I have been sleeping with a guy unprotected for a year now last month I got pregnant and I had a miscarriage I never told him because we are not together. Then I sobbed all night and I dont even know where it was coming from and I dont know if they will ever stop. Oh and one more thing abortion doesnt affect your fertility. The law has no exception to allow an abortion to save the life of . We have only been together 8 months though. We done the best we could at the time, and thats all we can do. And I cry every single day. I was a 19 year old college student with absolutely no plans to marry or have kids at that point. I dont want an abortion but that seems to be the best option. I agree about age being just a number but my husband is 50 and not interested in doing this again. All their comments are stressing me out and getting me really down. Floating in your tummy, feeling snug and warm. One abortion opponent testified that people in her life had .